Agree never argue redirect never reason distract never shame reassure never lecture reminisce never say remember repeat never say i told you.
Living with dementia agree never argue.
Never say remember instead reminisce.
A manual for staff helen and james whitworth are not doctors lawyers or social workers.
Never reason instead divert.
A is for assess accept and agree.
N is for never never argue g is for go with their flow let go of your ego get over it get on with it get down to it s if for say you re sorry.
Your brother died 10 years ago a person living with dementia may forget about a past bereavement or ask for somebody who has passed away.
Do not argue with your loved one.
But important nonetheless to remind ourselves how to engage with our most loved family members living with dementia.
Agree redirect distract reassure reminisce repeat ask.
Be willing to let most things go.
Any level of arguing is futile increases tension and achieves only disconnection.
Never shame instead distract.
Try to be polite and as patient as possible.
Don t argue with the person.
Absolute 1 tells us.
It s never a good idea to argue with a person who has dementia.
Never argue instead agree.
Never lecture instead reassure.
First of all you can t win.
It s important for somebody with dementia to feel they re being listened to and understood.
Arguing with someone with dementia gets you nowhere.
When communicating with older seniors and especially people with memory impairments due to alzheimer s or other dementia it s always good to keep these caregivers 10 commandments always agree never argue redirect never reason distract never shame reassure never lecture reminisce never say remember.
As informed caregivers they share the information here for educational purposes only.
I learned a long time ago when caring for my beloved romanian soul mate ed the best thing to do is simply change the subject preferably to something pleasant that will immediately catch their attention.
Arguing with your loved one about a forgotten memory will only upset them and further frustrate you.
Initially you might think to yourself but i don t usually argue however if one has much experience with a person with ad there is a smile or a nod as we see that the arguing has already begun perhaps long before anyone realized there might be a disease process involved.
Remembering these 10 commandments will help you look after yourself as you care for a loved one with dementia and will keep that fine thread of connection with your loved one as alive as it can be.
Never argue instead agree.
Fewer behaviors fewer drugs riding a roller coaster with lewy body dementia.
Don t underestimate the power of good nutrition.
And second it will probably upset them or even make them angry.
Since november is national alzheimer s disease awareness month we have even more reason to share some thoughtful tips for communicating with someone with alzheimer s or dementia.
It should never be used instead of a professional s advice.
Limiting refined sugars and increasing vegetables.
